Our Journey

Being Real

A few months ago I was struggling. I was mad at God for allowing these struggles to come into our lives. I wasn’t sure why I had to go through this! I’m a good person, I read my Bible, I go to church, I pray and listen to the Lord. On a deeper level I knew that this was a learning experience, but honestly I didn’t care. I wanted this to all go away. I didn’t want to do this. I didn’t want to talk to anyone about it because I didn’t want to get those standard comments, those “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”, “It will make you stronger”, “This is a growing season for you”. So instead I got mad, and I pouted! There are times in your life where you just “know” but while you are going through these struggles you can’t help feeling hurt, angry, mad, sad, and lonely and it is ok to feel that way. Reflecting, I chuckle to myself: I remember one day I was outside pacing back and forth having my discussion with God, and I remember saying “Well fine be that way, I’m not gonna talk to you anymore!” A few hours later a friend was struggling and hurting and the first thing I do…I pray, I start out saying I know I said I wasn’t gonna talk to You anymore and I’m not but this person needs You,… interesting don’t you think?

Doesn’t this make me a horrible person in your eyes? Because I got mad at God, because I acted like a child! It shouldn’t, God made us this way; He knows how we are feeling. So why is it so hard to tell others about your pain, your struggles, and your hurts? Why do we feel we can’t be transparent with each other? When did it become so hard to be truthful with each other? Where is the unconditional support? Why must we judge????

Let’s stop judging and start helping!! Be that supportive shoulder to cry on. Be that rock! Help someone when they are at the end of the rope. Be sincere, don’t just spout out meaningless phrases that everything will be ok, or that you know what they are going through. Love that person, and let them know it IS ok to be mad, sad, hurt, but that you do care about them and that you are there for them!!

If you are hurting or struggling, please find a supportive person to help you. There are many support groups out there. Don’t try to do it alone! Talk to someone!

Wishing you many Blessings Rainbow


Comments on: "Being Real" (2)

  1. Well, you hit the nail on the head for me. I have been in the middle of a struggle/transition/DRAMA for over a year. The other day I was so mad that things were not coming together and that we have been dealing with this for so long. I got into a “silent” yelling match with God. lol I laugh about it today because when you say “silent” yelling match it just sounds funny. lol Anyway, I yelled at him in my journal using all caps and a whole lot of exclamation points while crying so hard I could barely see. Why I did it silently was mainly so my kids didn’t see how upset I was. I didn’t want to freak them out. But I needed to get it out. Of course the next day I was praising him and thanking him again. He reminded me of David and how during many of his struggles he asked questions and was mad at God and then later in the same chapter he worshiped him. I learned right there that there was nothing wrong with my frustration and anger as long as I keep asking HIM the questions and not turn away from him. You are right though, we are all afraid to tell anyone about the pain and hurts and trials we go through for fear of getting the responses we mentioned. Frankly I am so tired of hearing about the “season” I am in. I KNOW what season I am in. Sometimes i just need a hug not an answer. 🙂 Thanks for the post and sorry for the long comment. 🙂

    • Thank you for the comment, I laugh too after I get over my hissy fits. I have a very vivid mind, if I think or say something, the image appears and then I can’t get it out, so after I’m done arguing I see myself as a little kid and God as my Father, or sometimes I’m that moody teenager but I never stray and I continue to seek His answers and His will.
      I pray your “season” will calm down, & I’m sending you a (((hug)))

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