A few months ago I was struggling. I was mad at God for allowing these struggles to come into our lives. I wasn’t sure why I had to go through this! I’m a good person, I read my Bible, I go to church, I pray and listen to the Lord. On a deeper level I knew that this was a learning experience, but honestly I didn’t care. I wanted this to all go away. I didn’t want to do this. I didn’t want to talk to anyone about it because I didn’t want to get those standard comments, those “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”, “It will make you stronger”, “This is a growing season for you”. So instead I got mad, and I pouted! There are times in your life where you just “know” but while you are going through these struggles you can’t help feeling hurt, angry, mad, sad, and lonely and it is ok to feel that way. Reflecting, I chuckle to myself: I remember one day I was outside pacing back and forth having my discussion with God, and I remember saying “Well fine be that way, I’m not gonna talk to you anymore!” A few hours later a friend was struggling and hurting and the first thing I do…I pray, I start out saying I know I said I wasn’t gonna talk to You anymore and I’m not but this person needs You,… interesting don’t you think?
Doesn’t this make me a horrible person in your eyes? Because I got mad at God, because I acted like a child! It shouldn’t, God made us this way; He knows how we are feeling. So why is it so hard to tell others about your pain, your struggles, and your hurts? Why do we feel we can’t be transparent with each other? When did it become so hard to be truthful with each other? Where is the unconditional support? Why must we judge????
Let’s stop judging and start helping!! Be that supportive shoulder to cry on. Be that rock! Help someone when they are at the end of the rope. Be sincere, don’t just spout out meaningless phrases that everything will be ok, or that you know what they are going through. Love that person, and let them know it IS ok to be mad, sad, hurt, but that you do care about them and that you are there for them!!
If you are hurting or struggling, please find a supportive person to help you. There are many support groups out there. Don’t try to do it alone! Talk to someone!
Wishing you many Blessings